tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post738267630012028680..comments2024-01-30T21:45:11.254+11:00Comments on Jabberwocky: Anxiety and (self) R.E.S.P.E.C.T.Arielhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17570339715916432947noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-6323347391942861882009-10-03T11:46:09.683+10:002009-10-03T11:46:09.683+10:00Thanks ASP for the heads up to here. The way I see...Thanks ASP for the heads up to here. The way I see it, you need to know your triggers and avoid them, and know your recovery processes and have them in your back pocket. The journey is learning them, but knowing that it's also ok to simply acknowledge it for what it is. Works for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-83895388888873969272009-10-03T08:54:20.112+10:002009-10-03T08:54:20.112+10:00Thanks Genevieve. I've spent some time in that...Thanks Genevieve. I've spent some time in that red zone, and I suppose I could write a post, but I'm not as brave as Ariel.A. S. Patrichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10864975526834406061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-17745804530701152442009-10-02T19:36:12.123+10:002009-10-02T19:36:12.123+10:00Wow, Alec, beautiful. Could stand as a post on its...Wow, Alec, beautiful. Could stand as a post on its own.genevievehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895689949182365454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-23687066502072253532009-09-28T09:50:54.142+10:002009-09-28T09:50:54.142+10:00Kath - not pithy or patronising at all. And you...Kath - not pithy or patronising at all. And you're right; it's much better than the alternative. Finding a way to control it is the key.<br /><br />AS, you have an excellent point. I think there are two things going on here - one, at a deeper level that if addressed would help me deal better with high pressure, is that issue of self-respect (and courage of your convictions) and learning when to stop worrying, when to let go, and when to flick the switch before an anxiety even gets buzzing (ie. in replaying social situations).<br /><br />But a huge part of it is in fact what you say - finding an everyday counterpart to 'the pressurised experience of crafted words'. It's easier in some ways in the half of my life that my son is with me, because that forces me to step back into another sphere. And walks, cooking, swimming ... all good ideas.<br /><br />Thanks to you both.Arielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17570339715916432947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-30754904144089184982009-09-28T08:04:59.695+10:002009-09-28T08:04:59.695+10:00There are guides for every difficult passage, and ...There are guides for every difficult passage, and Didion is great. The way I understand it, is there's a dial for stress. Too little and we're listless. The needle hovering in the middle is best. But we can get in the Red and and system can start shutting down. Anxiety flares, insomnia, headaches, etc, etc all begin happening in that Red zone. So I don't think it's about self-respect. It's about understanding that you're a human being, which means organic, seasonal, vulnerable, instinctual, emotional... And it means finding time away even from helpful sources like Didion, because you need to get away from the pressurized experience of crafted words. And I don't mean two days off and then right back into it. I mean an hour long walk every day, swimming, a yoga ritual, enjoying your time in the kitchen with the basic ingredients of physical nourishment. I mean, don't treat yourself like a word calculator or thinking machine. I don't want to be overly simplistic but these are some of the things that have helped me when I've started living in the Red.A. S. Patrichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10864975526834406061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-63512065969091276582009-09-28T08:03:30.186+10:002009-09-28T08:03:30.186+10:00Me again - the previous comment wasn't meant t...Me again - the previous comment wasn't meant to be pithy or patronising - I *have* been there, but haven't been able to describe it as well as you or be smart enough to seek out Joan Didion....Kath Locketthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09677312773827236567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-42756556956972541452009-09-28T08:02:29.357+10:002009-09-28T08:02:29.357+10:00You'll be fine. Having too many opportunities,...You'll be fine. Having too many opportunities, stuff to say 'yes' to and think about is actually not a bad thing, once it's under control.<br /><br />....and thanks for sharing - it makes the rest of us who have 'been there' not feel as bad!Kath Locketthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09677312773827236567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-62704392721436256032009-09-27T19:36:12.143+10:002009-09-27T19:36:12.143+10:00Thanks Genevieve ... yes, not entirely sure how wi...Thanks Genevieve ... yes, not entirely sure how wise it has been to post it, so this may disappear in the next day or so! But it did help ... and if JD can admit to phases like this, surely I can be as brave. I (along with my bookself) am my own therapist!<br /><br />Warplan ... nice. Yes, a day or two off would make a big difference, I think. (ctrl+alt+del)Arielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17570339715916432947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33579237.post-88244642867440025762009-09-27T19:30:04.882+10:002009-09-27T19:30:04.882+10:00And as well as taking JD's advice, you worked ...And as well as taking JD's advice, you worked out your own thoughts about it here. Brave stuff - sounds like you deserve a day (two?)off at some point to recharge though. Could make all the difference.<br /><br />*warflan* one letter away from warplan, heh.genevievehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895689949182365454noreply@blogger.com